Childrens Hair: Afro Hair Tips

Question: My 8 month old daughters hair is very dry especially the middle. I use Baby Magic oil. I used it yesterday and some today. It is still dry. Do you recommend using your products on 8 month old babies, not the styling products, just the conditioner?

Answer: No, the conditioner stimulation is too strong for her. She may think it is burning her. You can apply UBH Satin Crème moisturizer on her hair instead of using the baby oil. Baby oil is a lubricant not a moisturizer thus the reason her hair is still dry. Read my book to find out what a good moisturizer must contain.

Question: I have read your latest book, which was recommended by Ed Gillespie. I found it to be insightful and I have added your products to my hair routine. I would like to know your thoughts on caring for children's hair. My youngest daughter is 4 years old, and although her hair still relatively healthy I am beginning to see damage to the ends. How can I keep her on a healthy path to full head of hair?

Answer: Hair is hair, in that the chemical composition of all hair is the same, it is the characteristics that are different. You would use the same methods of caring for her hair as you would your own. You can also use the UBH products on her hair; as long as the child can understand that the conditioner is stimulating, not burning. You can use the UBH Satin Crème moisturizer which will help her hair to stay moisturized and soft.

Question: This is my first time visiting your site. I was looking for information on hair care for myself and my girls. The tips you offer are great and I will be checking out your book. I have two toddlers (3 and 2) and a five month old. I am assuming you are a certified beautician or cosmologist. Since it seems you were the main subject of your research stated on this website, I am hoping you picked up some info in your training.

Answer: I am not a licensed cosmetologist and I don’t want to be one either. I had access to the same information required to get a cosmetologist license so I studied hair from their books and every book I could find on hair. I did much more research than is required to obtain a cosmetology certification. My research was presented in the form of a thesis to the world in 1989 and still continues to teach anyone interested as well as people in the cosmetology industry. So my work is very credible. By the way the industry is one of the reason we DON’T have hair so I am glad to have taken a much different approach.

Question: I made the mistake of taking my daughter to a professional salon to get her hair pressed every two weeks for about 6 months. This woman specialized in caring for children's hair. In February the beautician trimmed her ends, because I told her that by daughters hair was shedding a lot. In May I noticed her hair was breaking and getting really short. It took me a while to notice it was getting shorter. She always wore a silk cap or scarf at night and under her hat to school. I used a moisturizer and oil spray on it at night. Her hair was midway her back and now it is just slightly on her shoulders. I am beginning to think her hair was being burned out. I am now taking care of it myself, deep conditioning it every week and she is wearing her natural hair in braids. I hope it is not permanently ruined. I have conditioned it to the point were just about all the press is out of it. It has been about 3 months since she stopped getting it pressed. I have never believed in perming or relaxing children's hair because of the children that I have seen with long hair after they get it permed they wind up with no hair. Now I've done the same thing by letting my daughter get hers pressed. My husband warned me it was not a good idea to press it. I have tried blow drying her hair but this only makes her hair wild, poofy, and unmanageable. So now, she has her own hair in braids. I know when she is in high school next year she will want to wear her hair in other styles. Someone with the same texture as hers told me only let her get it pressed once a month. I plan on reading your book to get some ideas. We both have totally different hair textures. I have needed to relax my hair since age 18 and it has worked for me for over 30 years. I am afraid to try it on her. One thing I read is that you stated pregnant women's hair grows because of the vitamins and nutrients they take. I have 4 children, 3 sons, 1 daughter. I DID NOT take vitamins or nutrients during any of my pregnancies, with my sons and my hair grew really long and healthy. With my daughter my hair grew really long but not healthy. I am looking forward to reading your book. What do you suggest?

Answer: The treatments you are using on your daughters hair are inadequate. The conditioner product you are using probably provides no real benefit for her hair. I describe the requirements in my book. Pressing the hair does not permanently change the hair structure only a chemically can permanently change the structure. The moisturizer and spray you are using are probably NOT providing any real benefits either. My recommendations - on relaxers - Relaxers are not damaging unless misapplied or left unmaintained. The person you used for the pressing may have done a good job of pressing but leaving the hair unmaintained is what caused her hair to get shorter, not the pressing. I don’t recommend pressing but that is a personal choice for whatever style you choose to wear. Care comes before and after the style. That is what I teach in my book. If her hair is breaking it is because of improper care. On your vitamin scenario - you stated you did not take prenatal vitamins for your unborn children. Well perhaps your diet was adequate. I am surprised your doctor did not insist you take prenatal vitamins for your baby’s health. My methods teach you how to make the hair healthy externally. Read my book and your eyes will be opened. Have your daughter read it too as she will soon be taking care of her on hair and making decisions about how it will look and how to provide the best possible care.

Question: I have two daughters ages 10 and 13 and they have always had long hair. Last December the beautician had to cut their hair because of relaxer damage. I do not see any hair growth even though they always have new growth. I felt your research could help me but, they have braids so I can't wash their hair every three days. When it comes to my girl’s hair I will try whatever you suggest. Should I take the braids out, or is there something different I should do with the braids?

Answer: I travel around the country and see the damage braids do to our hair. I see receding hair lines back to the ears, patches out and 3/4" spaces between braids. Braids are another problem we have now chosen to temporarily add length. Not only is their hair dry but it is not cared for under braids so the hair generally comes out when the braids are removed. It is a requirement to care for our hair before and after the style. Braids are no exception. I don’t recommend braids but if you want them to wear braids, braid their hair, and get rid of the fake hair. Read my book to understand what it takes to keep it on their heads. The girls need to understand now how to take care of their own hair and the best time is now. Have them read the book and apply my methods. They are old enough to wash their hair in the shower. Get rid of the braids. You will find my solutions a lot cheaper and more rewarding.

Question: I recently began using your products for my daughter's hair. I found a beauty shop that sells KeraCare shampoo. Your conditioner and moisturizer are wonderful for my daughter's hair. I use the products for my hair as well. I found that the spray moisturizer tends to make my hair frizzy. I sprayed a little on before I curled with the hot irons. I was wondering if maybe I should use your Satin Crème moisturizer along with your Silky Spray moisturizer.

Answer: To use the Silky Spray moisturizer BEFORE you curl your hair, lightly mist it on your hair or immediately after you wash BEFORE you dry. Some sisters use it to roller set with as well as detangle. Yes, you can use our Satin Crème moisturizer with the Silky Spray if you like.

Question: I followed your directions as laid out in your book. My hair now is a little puffy and feels hard as opposed to soft. Do you have any suggestions as I will be washing and conditioning it again this Friday? My daughter's hair is doing great I'm not having such good results yet so I wanted to get suggestions on how to fine tune what I'm doing. My daughter is 13 years old. Her hair texture in very soft and wavy, but it will get very dry and brittle if I don't use a moisturizer.

Answer: You did not mention if your daughter has natural or chemically processed hair. I assume natural for her and chemically processed for you. If it is close to a retouch (if you have a relaxer) you can use the Satin Creme moisturizer to soften your hair. The Satin Creme will provide the oils you are probably lacking with using just Silky Spray, which is why you are probably experiencing the hard hair you mentioned. If your daughter's hair is natural, just the Satin Creme will work wonders for her.

Question: My daughters do not have relaxed hair. I have been very hesitant to put any chemicals on their hair because of some vague belief that applying a chemical process to their hair before the age of 10 or 12 will cause irreparable harm. This belief doesn't have any concrete basis. If you would recommend to me that I should put a texturizer in their hair, I would seriously consider it. I style my own hair in twists that I redo every week (I have had my hair texturized in the past, more recently the Wash & Wear process, from Jazma), I have been trying to style their hair the same as my own since we all began to follow your book back in December. I can say that I have noticed length in my own hair but not theirs. Any suggestions would be highly valued and appreciated.

Answer: Depending on the curl pattern, the girls’ unprocessed/natural hair will be dry without the right products. Also a texturizer is a chemical much like the relaxer that often uses Thio which is a solution different than relaxers. I don’t recommend putting any chemicals on young children because you are going to get stuck caring for their hair, not them, if you want them to keep it on their heads. Also their little bodies experience hormonal changes when they become teens. The product that you used earlier may affect the hair differently when they go through those changes as the hair too may change. It has nothing to do with irreparable damage caused by chemical relaxers since the hair will eventually grow out!

Question: I've been using your program for over a year (My hair has grown about 3 - 4 inches and probably would have grown longer if I could stay away from my curling iron). Six months after I started doing the program I decided I would try it on my little girl. Her hair was natural and the spray would make it soft but frizzy. My little girl has really thick hair. It wasn't really nappy but kinky and would tangle easy. She dreaded getting her hair combed and listening to some older folks I put a kiddie relaxer in her hair. Her hair has grown about 6 inches since last year and it's thicker than ever and I know that it's all due to your products! However, now I think I made a mistake by putting the kiddie relaxer in her hair. My question is...if I let the relaxer grow out and continue to do your hair regimen will I still have to worry about her hair breaking as the perm grows out, or is it too late and now I'll have to use the kiddie perm forever?

Answer: You are not stuck forever with a relaxer on your daughter. To grow her out of it, here are my suggestions: Her hair will need to be kept soft to keep it from breaking. You will need to use a flat iron to straighten her hair as the new growth comes in. Her hair will be drier and more brittle as well where the hair that has been relaxed. The hair between the new growth and processed hair will be the weakest so be careful when handling her hair and ensure you are sticking with the program of washing and conditioning to keep her hair strong and healthy. Straightening the hair will help smooth the cuticle and soften it. Under NO circumstance should you use the hot comb on her hair as the relaxed hair still on her head will break off even years later until if completely grows out. Keeping her hair soft will be the key to keeping it on her head.

Question: I would like to know how to care for my three girl’s hair. I always wanted to go to beauty school and because I didn't, now I am really regretting it (although you should probably be born with the talent, which I am not). Except for the last one, the toddlers both had a problem with the back of the head hair falling out and it is taking a long time for their whole head to grow out. So for the talentless person that is challenged in just making a straight part; what do I do?

Answer: Dana, you did not mention if you use rubber bands, brushes, all bad things for them as well as us. Friction often causes hair to break and fall off. This happens to babies from lying on their back often as babies do. If their hair is very dry, you need to understand how to keep it soft and from breaking. Caring for the hair is what I focus on. Putting little parts and ribbons in the hair falls under hair style, which I do not offer advice on.

Question: My oldest daughter’s hair is so thick and she has the nerve to be tender headed (you can probably imagine the screaming and how long it takes. It is a job in itself; what should I do?

Answer: Her little head hurts when it is pulled and tugged so to make this part of her hair care less stressful, I would suggest using UBH Silky Spray moisturizer after you shampoo to help soften and detangle her hair. To further lessen the tangling and matting, before you put any water on her hair I recommend you put her hair in 2-3 scrunches to prevent it from shrinking. (It is a technique I call “controlled handling”) then wash her hair with the scrunches on it, removing them only to rinse, then replace them until you are ready to do whatever you do to style it. Use my Satin Crème moisturizer on her hair daily to help smooth the hair cuticle, making combing her hair a lot easier. It is not greasy and a small amount will go a long way. Try that and see if it works.

Question: How do I prevent my baby's hair from falling out and get her off to a good start? Is it possible to preserve any of that baby hair?

Answer: Keeping the baby’s hair the way it is now is not something we control. That is controlled by genetics. The hair babies are born with always falls out making way for hair that may change texture, look and color even well into their teens. Your focus should be helping them care for their hair as best you can. I have not focused specifically on children’s hair. My focus was on hair growth for black women when the hair breaks off repeatedly, when chemicals and abuse are the reasons for short hair, not on 2 month olds hair problems because quite frankly I don’t think they have hair problems unless it is caused by a skin disorder. My book will teach you how to care for your hair. Use the same principles and techniques on your baby’s hair when she is older.

Question: My 11 year old daughter's hair is breaking off from relaxers and going to the pool, although she says that she keeps the cap on. I want to remove the relaxer from her hair but I don't know how. It's getting shorter and shorter. What can I do?

Answer: It does not matter if she keeps the cap on or not the water will still get under the cap. Have you done any deep conditioning treatments on her hair? This is what I talk about in my book. There is no way to take the relaxer out of her hair except to cut it out. The chemical changes the hair structure permanently. You can help it grow out by applying the principles in my book to help you keep her hair on her head. Read my book to understand why she has the breakage and how to eliminate it.

Question: I ordered the spray moisturizer and conditioner. Do you recommend using it for children; and if so what age?

Answer: The UBH Satin Creme moisturizer is what I recommend for children. The Silky Spray moisturizer is also okay on children. The conditioner however, contains a strong stimulant. So my deep conditioner is not recommended for children who are too young to understand the conditioner is stimulating not burning the head. If you can explain to the child about the tingling, then you are okay to use it if they understand what is happening.

Question: My daughter is 6 years old and she has a lot of dry ends that are starting to fall off. I do not press her hair, and I have not put any chemicals in her hair. Can these products be used on my daughter’s hair?

Answer: See my answer above.

Question: I am so very thankful that I found your website today. I wish I had heard about your book before. I have a 5-1/2 year old daughter who has serious dry scalp and hair. It is so bad her scalp now looks like a white powder has been poured out on her scalp. It is so itchy that she scratches constantly. She has dark skin but the hairline near her forehead is two shades lighter than the rest of her forehead. Her hair refuses to grow. I am presently using Johnson's Baby shampoo two or three times weekly. I use castor oil to help hide the white scalp and to soothe the scalp. I sometimes blend Aloe Vera and use it as a conditioner and I use a very soft brush to help massage the scalp. I must add that we reside in a very tropical country (Cayman Islands) in the Caribbean. We reside on the beach front and we use desalinated water on her hair. Will you please recommend some products to help her? I am so very desperate.

Answer: The condition you describe is not what you think. I can understand she has dry hair but the powdery condition sounds like some form of dermatitis. I would recommend taking your baby to a dermatologist. The condition you describe is just not indicative of dry hair. The inability of her hair to grow can be characterized by a dry hair condition but the scalp is not what is causing the hair to stay short. She may be having an allergic reaction to products you are using on her too. Only a dermatologist can give you the answers. Take care of the scalp condition first then focus on her hair. After you find out what the problem is, then you might want to get a copy of my book to work at eliminating the dry hair condition but not until you find out what is causing the scalp concern!

Question: I have a question about my 3 year old daughter and her curly hair? I was wondering what conditioner would be good to use on her hair. I know that you previously told me that your conditioner is too strong, which I do agree. So what would you suggest?

Answer: No conditioner just yet. Only use UBH Satin Crème moisturizer on her hair to soften and moisturize it.

Question: Cathy, I have two little girls and I would like for their hair to be healthy also. Are UBH products okay to use on children?

Answer: Of course they are safe for children. Hair is hair; it is the characteristics that are different. As long as the child can understand that the conditioner is stimulating, not burning, you can use it as well as the UBH Satin Crème and Silky Spray on them.

Question: I think the hairdresser ruined by daughter's hair. We have been trying for over two years to grow her hair back since it had to be cut due to splitting. I need to know what to do for her. Her self-esteem is down and she worries so much about it. If there is anything you can suggest?

Answer: Cynthia, your daughter’s hair was probably splitting because of things you were or were not doing to benefit her hair. My Ultra Black Hair book is your first starting point. Wanting hair was my reason for doing this. It has improved my self-esteem too! The book will open your eyes and teach you how to help her grow her hair. You did not mention how old she was, nor did you mention if her hair is chemically processed. If she is a teen, make her read the book and follow my method of hair care described inside the pages. If her hair is dry and breaking, which it sounds like it is, this will help her.

Question: I've just visited your website. My daughter’s hair seems to break a lot and is very thin around the edges. I would like to know if this product works well for kids.

Answer: Yes this products works for all hair that is dry, chemically processed or natural. Dry hair that breaks is what it was created for. If you are brushing her hair around the edges (perhaps someone told you to do this) stop it. Especially if her hair is chemically processed! Get a copy of the book. Your eyes will be instantly opened. It is not new information, just common sense information that has been proven since 1989. The knowledge will empower you.

Question: I saw your website and hoped this was the answer to mine and my 2 year old daughter’s prayers. For starters my two year old has that same bald spot that most babies have. However, I've tried everything to get it growing. I've been advised by friends to put that short part in rubber bands and it will stimulate growth. What it does is takes her hair out! It never fails. If I leave the rubber bands in her hair for more than a day, hair comes out with the rubber bands. I am 35 years old and always wanted long hair. It just started to grow last year after I had used mircobraids. But as it usually does it is starting to break when they were removed. Can your product help our hair?

Answer: Melissa my products WILL improve your dry hair condition. As far as the baby, only use the UBH Satin Crème moisturizer on her hair because the conditioner contains a strong stimulant that she might think is hurting her when it tingles on her head. Stay away from the rubber bands too. Use little cloth bands (scrunches) or simply braid her hair without rubber bands (and your hair included). And finally keep it moisturized daily.

Question: I must say I was quite surprised to hear of such fine hair care info coming from Denver (I'm from Denver but moved to Houston 4 years ago). I thought for sure the humidity would be good for my hair and make it grow. Not the case! I just purchased your products. I have one question and that is what age is appropriate for putting a kiddie perm/relaxer on a child’s hair? Normally I'm against doing so, but I've tried to straighten my daughter’s hair with a small flat iron, but her hair doesn't really get straight. It won't even curl with a curling iron. Please help!! I usually keep her hair in braids which I take down and re-do twice a week. I am no longer going to brush our hair or use grease on it.

Answer: Yvette, I do not recommend relaxing a child’s hair at all! But if you choose to do that to your child please wait until around puberty (12-13) the hair often goes through hormonal changes around this time. Some mothers will resort to relaxing the daughter’s hair to make it easier to deal with before this time, but it is not anything I recommend.

Question: I really like the "Just For Me" relaxer so I will stick with it. I didn't care for Cream of Nature. My daughter is 7. Her hair really NEEDED a relaxer. It was just awfully nappy. Water and grease was just not working. I do the relaxer only every 2 months or so. Since she goes with me to the salon on a regular basis, her relaxer lasts longer. I do make sure to deep condition and moisturize the same way I do mine though. Should I be concerned?

Answer: I would never advise you to put relaxer on your daughter’s hair, but here is my advice since you already have done it. With relaxing her hair, just be careful not to burn her head with the chemical. Ensure it is kept off her scalp when it is applied. Young children’s skin is so delicate. I am not concerned about you caring for her hair. My concern is that the relaxer chemical can burn her just like it can burn you. Women often come to me at tradeshows and show me their bald scalps and say it happened with a chemical. It can happen to your daughter too! So please be very careful!

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